Hello good people of the Internet :),
I’m back from honeymoon in Seoul!
Seoul was really good, we ate, ate and ate.
I’ve been catching up with life and how to function. Since being back a week now, my psoriasis has flared up (I must be allergic to not being on holiday). While we were in Seoul I was also nominated for The Liebester Award by Sarah at fabric that made me (thank you so much). This will probably be next week’s post!
So now that we’re back, it’s back to writing! I wanted to briefly comment on what we noticed being an interracial couple in Seoul.
Being a halfie, anyone I enter a relationship with (provided they are not a fellow half Asian half White person), would be considered an interracial relationship – at least in my opinion.
My husband is British, and is ethnically Chinese. I am British/Kiwi/Taiwanese, who is ethnically English-Scottish//Taiwanese-Hakka. I’ve posted pictures of us below, because I love taking photos together <3. There are a ton more, but this isn’t my personal cloud where I fan girl over how cute I think my husband is.
During our brief 10 day visit to Seoul, I noted a couple things.
- My admiration for the level of no f**ks given by so many of the Korean people. For example but not limited to, filming thyself dancing in the streets, vlogging, live streaming, selfies, parking wherever thy wants – including across a pedestrian crossing and so on. One that sticks in my head is this; on our last night in Seoul, we were wandering the streets of Hongdae when we came across a reversing car, we saw a sign that said the road was closed, so we thought he was backing up and out of the street. Nope, he was backing up so that he would have the space to go around the sign.
Amazing. I think we all need to be a little more Korean and don’t worry so much. Not to say that you should ignore street signs! But the UK is very much a nation of worriers.
- Another thing we noted were the intense stares we received from a lot of people. It wasn’t malicious nor did it make us feel uncomfortable, it came across more as a ‘ I am shamelessly staring at you‘. Normally, when you catch someone staring at you, they look away. This was not our experience in Seoul; hence, the ‘I am shamelessly staring at you‘ came into play.
They would look at me, look at my husband, back at me, back at my husband and so forth. Crane their necks to get a better view, turn around or be standing next to us and turn their head to a 90 degree angle to look at us, and just….shamelessly look. I do wish I had this level of shameless-ness. But, this would probably get me in trouble in the UK.
When we went to Japan together (twice so far), I didn’t notice intense stares by people, but my husband said maybe it’s because the Japanese are more discreet and commented that some people did talk about us (yes, my husband speaks Japanese).
Being stared at doesn’t bother me, nor does it bother my husband. Hubby has no f**ks to give and I’ve grown up being stared at (whenever I was in Taiwan), it was just my normal.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that everyone cared or took second looks. This post is just for fun, and thought I would share this experience we had in Seoul.
During our stay, we discovered a lot of Koreans put me in the foreigner category and thought my husband was a fellow Korean. So another possibility we thought was that the stares were the ‘a Korean with a foreigner’ look. I am also aware that the older generation in Korea is far more traditional and thinks Korean boys should marry good Korean girls. I category that we did not fulfil.
Since neither of us speak Korean*, so these are just guesses based solely on the impression we got while we were there and the knowledge we already know of Korea. In general, I find it’s amazing how much us humans can infer on what someone is saying even though you don’t speak the same language. GO HUMANS!
* Though, my hubby knows some phrases which helped us get around, while I was 100% fluent in how to say ‘thank you’ like a foreigner.
Anyway, this wraps up this short sharing my thoughts and experiences post. Hope you enjoyed reading it!
If you want, I could write about our experience here in UK or interactions we had in Japan to our ‘interracial coupling‘.
Any Koreans or anyone living in Korea reading this? If so, I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences on dating or even interracial coupling in Korea.